Korean men going to Vietnam for brides

Posted Thursday, February 22, 2007 at 11h37 in Languages, News

The NYTimes has a fascinating article on Korean men who use brokers to find brides in Vietnam. The interesting thing about the article is that it covers the experience of a practice most of us see as sad, degrading, and even comical, in a matter-of-fact manner with a seemingly objective voice. It definitely provides more details than I’ve ever heard before on this subject. Below are some excerpts:

Ahn Jae-won, a Korean broker who has long been based in Hanoi and is married to a Vietnamese woman, began: “The women have come out looking their best for you. But don’t expect them to look as pretty as Korean women.”

Ouch, I don’t think Vietnamese women would appreciate that. It’s interesting to note the author of the article is a Korean woman by the name of Su-hyun Lee.

“The parents know that their daughters will marry a Korean man. The authorities know this is happening, but there’ll be trouble if we do it in front of them. So I seek your understanding. Once we land in Hanoi, even though it’ll be very late, we’ll go meet the women right away. It’s safer to do this at night.”

You’d think it’d be safer to do these things during the day, but what do I know?

But Ms. Thuy’s father, Bui Van Vui, 52, was displeased that his daughter was marrying a man just one year younger than he was.

Now that just elicits a collective, “ewwww.”

9 Comments »

Comment from pekkle on February 22, 2007 at 3:31 pm

Hearsay (from what I heard in VN) says that the ethnicity with the most men going to VN for brides is …

Taiwanese!

No seriously that’s the consensus amongst the girls I asked.

Comment from stevec on February 22, 2007 at 3:45 pm

i can believe that. but do you think maybe they told you that just because you’re taiwanese? :)

Comment from pekkle on February 22, 2007 at 3:47 pm

Don’t think so … I told them I was Chinese-American … which confused them.

Comment from pekkle on February 22, 2007 at 3:48 pm

Incidentally there are some stunning VN women in HCMC …

Comment from JZ on February 22, 2007 at 8:16 pm

haha this is so weird I was just researching Russian “mail order brides” yesterday on a whim (don’t ask). Apparently according to womenrussia.com Russia has 100 women to every 88 men so I wonder why the Koreans don’t look there after all many of the women in russia are of varied degrees of Asiatic descent (if they care about such things), are very well educated for the most part and probably are most accustomed to the style of life in a 1st world country like Korea than Vietnamese women might be.

Comment from stevec on February 22, 2007 at 9:26 pm

I think the resistance of the Korean man’s family to him marrying a Russian woman would be much, much higher than with marrying a Vietnamese woman. I don’t think Koreans, or much of Asia for that matter, consider Russians to be part of the Asian ethnic group. They consider Russians more ethnically related to Europeans and Americans than Asians.

Comment from JZ on February 22, 2007 at 10:34 pm

hunh what you say makes sense. Still it seems kinda odd in a way to exclude Russians of hand after all it seems as though the largest border Russia has is with Mongolia/China (not to mention that it has a border with N Korea as well) so you’d think their would be significant racial/cultural mixing in those areas . heh I guess that area of Russia is Siberia though, which doesn’t exactly have the greatest reputation or ease of access.

I dunno guess it was my own personal bias influencing my thinking. I always have thought of the former USSR countries as Eurasian in the sense of being European like on the west end and Asian like on the west (and somewhat Arabian to the Southwest). But of course it’s not me who’s thinking matters or who is looking to marry a foreign woman and bring her home to Korea :)

Comment from JZ on February 22, 2007 at 10:56 pm

sorry for the typo should have read “Asian-like on the east end”

Comment from stevec on February 23, 2007 at 11:29 am

ya, i guess geographically russia does extend into asia. but if you look at the women, they look totally different from asian women (korean, chinese, japanese, vietnamese, etc.), and isn’t that what counts in the end? =]

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